Positive Outcomes

Posted by Tom Locke on September 6th, 2018 filed in Business, Education, Life
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One of my favourite Bing Crosby’s recordings was “Accentuate The Positive”.  The first verse went something like this:

Man, they said we better, accentuate the positive 
Eliminate the negative 
Latch on to the affirmative 
Don’t mess with Mister In-Between

If the above is not a formula for success, I don’t know what is.

Stating the positive outcome you desire instead of telling someone what you don’t want them to do is the way to go.

As a baseball coach, I often tell my pitchers, “Throw strikes,” instead of, “Don’t walk this hitter.”  To my batters, I would say, “Hit the ball hard” as opposed to “Don’t get out”.

This approach usually works and puts the ones you interact with in a positive frame of mine.


Envy Into Energy

Posted by Tom Locke on August 14th, 2018 filed in Business, Education, History, Life
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Being satisfied and thankful for what you have is key to feeling fulfilled and being happy.

However, it’s natural to feel envious or inadequate, to want more and more.  It’s human nature.

When we compare ourselves to others (and social media has brought this to the forefront) there are always going to be people who (seemingly) have more than we do. If you’re happy with who you are and what you have, enjoy it. Celebrate it. Appreciate it. Accept it.

The only other way to see it is to be happy for those who have “made it”.  Or, use their success to fuel your desire to accomplish something that is meaningful to you (e.g. lose weight, start a new business, etc.).

In short, turn envy and feelings of inadequacy into energy – then engage it.


The Purpose of Life

Posted by Tom Locke on August 2nd, 2018 filed in Education, General, History, Life
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I have often asked people what they thought the purpose of life was.  Many respond by saying, “Being happy”.  I then asked them how they went about “being happy”.  Invariably we would get around to doing things that make them happy.

And it is the doing of things that make you happy with the greatest highs coming from doing things for other people and observing/feeling their positive reactions.

An analysis of this tells me that the purpose of life is making your life count by being useful, honorable and compassionate.  This approach allows you to make a difference.

Making a difference will put a smile on your face … “being happy” is the result.


Remaining Relevant

Posted by Tom Locke on July 31st, 2018 filed in Business, History, Life, Technology
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I am a firm believer in life-long learning.  If we don’t keep up with the latest trends and technologies relevant to us, we become irrelevant.

Some people are fine with that, choosing to spend their latter years in a relaxed, “non-seeking”  mode.  However, I think that approach puts you somewhat behind the 8-ball when it comes to interacting with loved ones, especially those of different generations (e.g. your grandchildren).

To me, being “hip” or up-to-date is cool and gives you a sense of positive self-worth.

It’s easy to feel left behind by the latest and greatest of everything. It’s always been this way —things change — but it happens sooner, faster, and more often now.

So how do we stay relevant in an ever-changing world?  Lee Silber, my San Diego colleague, suggests:

• Just keep up on the areas of change that interest you and provide the most impact
• Partner with people in the know and exchange your experience for their know how
• Go the other way and find people who still prefer the old way and offer them your goods or services.


Training – A Necessary Skill Set

Posted by Tom Locke on June 22nd, 2018 filed in Business, General, History, Life
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As per my San Diego Sage, Lee Silber:

Many parents believe they are running a family. Many bosses believe they are running a business. Many Principals believe they are running a school. None of them are 100% correct.

The truth is each one is running a training company. Maybe the best example is the family as a training company. The best parents are instructors, motivators, and most of all, good examples to their kids.


Another One Off The Bucket List

Posted by Tom Locke on June 14th, 2018 filed in General, History, Sports ... All Sorts
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During his days in Toronto, my Dad was quite a race horse enthusiast and was a pretty good handicapper.

I never really got excited about the sport until I watched Northern Dancer almost win the Triple Crown in 1964.

Since my Dad’s passing I have made a bet on the Kentucky Derby in his honour every year and have been fortunate to pick 5 out of the last 6 winners.  Ironically, the one I missed was in 2015 when American Pharoah won the Triple Crown.  However I did have a winning ticket on him in the Belmont.

My bucket list goal was to have winning bets on a Triple Crown winner from the outset.  This year I made it.

Attached are my $100 winning tickets for the Kentucky Derby (Churchill Downs), the Preakness (Pimlico) and the Belmont Stakes – well Justify-ed.

Kentucky Derby 2018  Belmont Stakes 2018Preakness 2018Justify at the Finish Line in the Belmont


Open and Frank Discussion

Posted by Tom Locke on May 24th, 2018 filed in Business, Life
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For the most part, nobody likes to hurt people’s feelings – it’s common nature.

Hence in both business and personal settings, many people remain quiet and do not express what they really feel about a subject or someone.

But is that a good thing?

Being open and frank in a positive/solution driven way alleviates the impact of personal attacks.  Studies have shown that this type of approach produces a willingness to participate as confidence and trust are established.

And, when you have more people in the conversation, you get more ideas, you get the opportunity to discuss positives and negative and you get the chance to determine the best course of action.

It does not happen overnight but through committed leadership in this approach it can happen.


Do You Have A Book In You

Posted by Tom Locke on May 11th, 2018 filed in General, History, Life
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Have you ever thought of your life as a book or movie? Maybe you should. It’s a chance to look back and celebrate all that was good and look ahead to create what you want.

What would you talk about?  Well, how about your experiences and what you have learned from them?  In approaching this, author/speaker Lee Silber suggests the following areas for you to hone in on:

Self-Help

What brings out the best in you? What would you like to improve upon?

Thriller

What is something you did that you were afraid to, but did it anyway? What would you try if you knew you could not fail?

Travel Guide

Where was your favorite vacation destination? Where have you always wanted to go?

Growing Up

What is your happiest childhood memory? What can you do now to be that happy again?

Romance

Who is the love of your life? What makes them special?

Career / Business 

What was a smart career or business move you made? What is your dream job? What type of business would you start if you could?

Others Who Have Touched You

Who have you always admired? Why? What would they do if they were in your shoes right now?

Fitness

When were you in your best shape? How did you do it? What would you like to look and feel like in the future?

Finance

What was one of your soundest investments? How much would you like to earn or have saved up?

Highlights That Are Memorable To You

Explore the highlights of your life to date, and the ones to come (Bucket List?).

 

 


Being Nice In The Workplace

Posted by Tom Locke on April 26th, 2018 filed in Business, Life
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Being nice in the workplace is all about balance.  It costs nothing to be nice to fellow employees.  Yet, sometimes we bend over backwards to not hurt someone feelings and end up sacrificing productivity.

Being nice does not mean that you agree with everything being said.  It is more about how you process and respond to information presented.  Responding in a positive and respectful manner is essential – negativity stifles innovation.

Feeling good and going to work with a positive attitude contributes greatly to a productive environment.  There is a strong correlation in being happy and being productive.   This approach also breeds one of the strongest characteristic in a good company – trust.

Lastly, their is nothing wrong with this spilling over into your personal life as well.


Reconnecting With Your Past

Posted by Tom Locke on April 12th, 2018 filed in Life, Sports ... All Sorts
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During the first week in April this year, I had the opportunity to have breakfast with my old fastball coach who is 93 years young, ambulatory and sharp as a tack.

What he did not know was that, in addition to his son, I also invited to breakfast two other players from our ball team who played for him during the 60′s and early 70′s.  He was both surprised and appreciative.

We then let him know that in September of 2019 we were going to assemble all the living members of our Ontario Championship team to celebrate the 50th anniversary of our win.  So he now has the goal of of making sure he is there to reconnect with all the players he helped mold into upstanding and successful men.

The response that our organizing committee got from our fellow team members was outstanding with many commenting how great it is going to be to get together for a joyous occasion as opposed to a celebration of life for a dearly departed.

The fact that we can jointly get together to celebrate an impressionable milestone in our lives is a legacy in itself.